I think that it is true that a woman can have and do it all. The catch is that we cannot do both at the same time. The dream version that we have of the perfect woman, wife and mother is just that- a dream, not a reality.
I have met many kinds of women in my years of traveling. I have never met one who was all of these 3 things at once. Yes, it is conceivable to be a successful career woman, have a wonderful marriage and be a devoted mother, but not possible for all of these things to exist simultaneously. If a woman claims to be able to do this, she is lying.
Making good choices will make a successful life. Successful women analyze their situation and make priorities. Doing as your mother did or what your colleague does may not be the best decision for you. It doesn't make you a failure, either. You have to make choices that are best for you. You have to do what makes you feel fulfilled and happy.
I have had many cases of people doing one thing while wanting to do another and never feeling happy or fulfilled, or feeling a failure for not being able to do all of what they are expected to. I had an email from Emily, who purchased Light His Fire and Light Her Fire, she writes, "Being a good mother was my first priority but for the past few years, I've been buried by diapers. Having three children all under the age of five has consumed all of my time. It was my husband's idea that we get both programs and concentrate on each other for a while. We had begun to feel like strangers. Now it's time to get back being a wife." I have also received letters with the exact opposite situation.
Focusing on your career will not be conducive to focusing on your homemaking and children equally. Likewise, if you focus on your home and children, you cannot concentrate the same way on your career. my program also explains how you cannot completely focus on your children and your spouse at the same time. Someone will have to be excluded sometimes. Once you stop trying to be superwoman and supermom, you will feel less guilty. - 15431
I have met many kinds of women in my years of traveling. I have never met one who was all of these 3 things at once. Yes, it is conceivable to be a successful career woman, have a wonderful marriage and be a devoted mother, but not possible for all of these things to exist simultaneously. If a woman claims to be able to do this, she is lying.
Making good choices will make a successful life. Successful women analyze their situation and make priorities. Doing as your mother did or what your colleague does may not be the best decision for you. It doesn't make you a failure, either. You have to make choices that are best for you. You have to do what makes you feel fulfilled and happy.
I have had many cases of people doing one thing while wanting to do another and never feeling happy or fulfilled, or feeling a failure for not being able to do all of what they are expected to. I had an email from Emily, who purchased Light His Fire and Light Her Fire, she writes, "Being a good mother was my first priority but for the past few years, I've been buried by diapers. Having three children all under the age of five has consumed all of my time. It was my husband's idea that we get both programs and concentrate on each other for a while. We had begun to feel like strangers. Now it's time to get back being a wife." I have also received letters with the exact opposite situation.
Focusing on your career will not be conducive to focusing on your homemaking and children equally. Likewise, if you focus on your home and children, you cannot concentrate the same way on your career. my program also explains how you cannot completely focus on your children and your spouse at the same time. Someone will have to be excluded sometimes. Once you stop trying to be superwoman and supermom, you will feel less guilty. - 15431
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