Monday, October 6, 2008

The Top Five Flirting Tips For Men - Flirting Tips & Texting Tips

By Tyler Tray

Flirting has become incredibly important in today's society. In the 19th century, marriages and relationships were forced or arranged by family and there was no need for flirting.

By the 1980's everything changed. Not only was it 100 percent the responsibility of an individual to find relationships, but it became crucial that men know how to flirt with women.

Some men took on this knew challenge and started looking for flirting tips while some just took the examples from their parents and peers and used those to attract women. What did become clear in the 20th century was that men needed to know how to flirt with women, and that it's much different than what the ordinary man thinks is flirting.

The first thing you need to know is that flirting is something learned and no one is born with a natural ability to flirt. Every man has had to learn how to do it and you can to.

These flirting tips have been used in my coaching seminars and proven to bring results. The best thing to do is try new things until you find what works. Enjoy these flirting tips:

Flirting Tips #1 - Have Physical Connection

Women communicate through physical interactions way more than men and you must communicate with her physically to be successful. Just make sure that it is non-threatening by touching her hand, arm or back.

Once you have initiated the touch you need to be aware if she touches you back. If she does, that's a strong indicator that she feels safe around you and that you can keep progressing the interaction. If she doesn't, consider backing off.

Flirting Tips #2 - Leave on a high - get her laughing

The most important part of a conversation is the same as the most important part of a speech, and that is the ending. The way you end and the feeling you give in that ending is what lasts and makes the final imprint about yourself. It's the same thing as molding clay - you can mold clay however you want, but when you leave it, and it dries, that is what you have to remember it by.

For example, if you are going to meet her don't just say, "ya we will see you then, bye." Instead say something like, "yeah just try not to embarrass me." or "Don't forget to paint your toe nails." or "This is where you say you can't wait to see me and hope you can keep your hands to yourself." You will see women wanting to be with you more if you can end off conversations with her laughing.

Flirting Tips #3 - Qualify, Qualify, Qualify

Qualifying is not easy for men. Men seemed to be affected by a good looking woman and then go into this mood of wanting to please her in any way they can. They basically sell themselves until they present a deal that costs the woman nothing. If it costs the woman nothing to have you or lose you, then you can imagine what kind of value that gives her. Don't lose your value - that's what is making her want you. The best way to maintain your value is by qualifying.

Some ways to qualify is to ask her questions about something she is wearing or something she did or is doing, and then really listen to her response, "That's a cool necklace, did you get it traveling?" Another great flirting tip when qualifying is to turn the tables by taking the role that women like to take, "So are you going to ask me out or what?" or "You didn't just tell me you liked hiking to get me to like you, did you?" Just remember to always give your approval when interacting.

Flirting Tips #4 - Props

This is a very easy one and it works really well for flirting. First understand that women search for tips on flirting with men 3 times more than men do. It's because women want to flirt with men, but wouldn't know what to say if they approached you. If you were to have something (a prop) to talk about, women would feel much more comfortable approaching you. Remember, when you are talking, you can have a set prop that you can use to be flirty instead of having to shoot into the wind all the time.

For instance, you could have a bandanna that hangs out of your pocket or a hat that stands out or just a shirt that says something funny. Then, when they ask about the bandanna you can say something like, "it was a ruff time in my life I don't think we are good enough friends to talk about this yet" then you can go into some funny story or whatever you want. The most important thing about this flirting tip is that it breaks the ice and gets the conversation rolling.

Flirting Tips #5 - Flirt through texting

Being successful with women is becoming easier and easier for men. Why? Because communication through texting, text messaging, and sms text messages has became such a huge part of everyday communication. This is a gold mine for men. It gives you time to get the right message (which also improves your real world flirting), you can interact with more than one woman at once to increase your chances, and it builds your confidence. Most importantly, it cuts out all the potentially negative attraction triggers women usually see, such as clothes, smile, breath, hair, etc. All you're left with are words and timing.

Once you get the right words with the right timing, you can expect a ton of success with women. And since most men fail at flirting in texting, you will stand above the rest and see a lot more women responding desirably to you. - 15431

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