A lot of guys will want to learn the skills of a pick-up artist in order to meet plenty of women. Their motivation might be to take their seduced women to bed or to have a short-term relationship with them. But the one situation that all men find themselves in, no matter talented they might be when it comes to seducing a woman, is that they fall in love.
The prospect of falling in love for most guys getting involved in the game of the pick-up artist seems as far-fetched as the prospect of death to a twelve year old. But it inevitably happens. Consider Neil Strauss. Consider the main character in his non-fiction best-seller, Mystery (the book starts off with Mystery on the verge of suicide because he lost the woman he loves -- okay, I'm being dramatic). The point is, love happens to all of us whether we want it or not.
The challenge most men have, no matter how great they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how hold on to the woman they love. This is particularly true for men who used the tactics they picked up in the books they have read and the courses they attended. See, the one thing these courses and books fail to teach their students is how to maintain a long-term relationship. These student pick-up artists naively buy into the idea of the alpha male personality. They don't care to know about how to appreciate their woman until it is virtually too late. Even those who do realize the importance of appreciation often don't know how to maintain the right levels of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don't know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from "new and exciting" to "comfortable." This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the "love" alive.
The first thing we can do is learn more about appreciation. While both men and women crave appreciation, neither of us is good at doing it. This doesn't need to be complication or elaborate, either. From thanking her for a small, random gift or showing appreciation for even a failed attempt at dinner, appreciation is vital. Once we stop appreciating, we run the risk of making her feel neglected and she will look elsewhere for this.
Another tactic that men can use is incorporating exciting elements in their relationship once they reach the comfort level. This doesn't mean some form of adventure every other night or even every other week, but the excitement of an impromptu adventure will keep the relationship fresh.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It's like going from first gear to fourth -- not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists' relationships suffer. - 15431
The prospect of falling in love for most guys getting involved in the game of the pick-up artist seems as far-fetched as the prospect of death to a twelve year old. But it inevitably happens. Consider Neil Strauss. Consider the main character in his non-fiction best-seller, Mystery (the book starts off with Mystery on the verge of suicide because he lost the woman he loves -- okay, I'm being dramatic). The point is, love happens to all of us whether we want it or not.
The challenge most men have, no matter how great they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how hold on to the woman they love. This is particularly true for men who used the tactics they picked up in the books they have read and the courses they attended. See, the one thing these courses and books fail to teach their students is how to maintain a long-term relationship. These student pick-up artists naively buy into the idea of the alpha male personality. They don't care to know about how to appreciate their woman until it is virtually too late. Even those who do realize the importance of appreciation often don't know how to maintain the right levels of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don't know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from "new and exciting" to "comfortable." This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the "love" alive.
The first thing we can do is learn more about appreciation. While both men and women crave appreciation, neither of us is good at doing it. This doesn't need to be complication or elaborate, either. From thanking her for a small, random gift or showing appreciation for even a failed attempt at dinner, appreciation is vital. Once we stop appreciating, we run the risk of making her feel neglected and she will look elsewhere for this.
Another tactic that men can use is incorporating exciting elements in their relationship once they reach the comfort level. This doesn't mean some form of adventure every other night or even every other week, but the excitement of an impromptu adventure will keep the relationship fresh.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It's like going from first gear to fourth -- not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists' relationships suffer. - 15431
About the Author:
Daryl Duke offers an e-course for budding pick-up artists free of charge at SeductAnyWoman.com. His course isn't just about the pick-up. It teaches how to Find, Attract, and Keep the right woman.
