Many people have heard of the idea of "playing to not lose" at least a few times in their life. If you haven't, you have now. This idea is heard frequently when a person, or a team, goes into a competition focused completely on NOT losing.
All they can think about is them not losing.
And what usually ends up happening, is they end up losing.
Focusing on that which you don't want is an amazing strategy to get exactly what you don't want!
If you are in a game, just trying to "not lose" is like being on the defensive until your opponent wins. Does that sound effective? Instead of going for the victory, you're just trying to keep the other person from getting points, and, once the game is over, you come to realize that you have missed every opportunity that was put in front of you to score, because you were way too focused on not losing.
Why don't you try winning for a change?
I know, what a crazy idea.
If you give yourself a goal to shoot for, chances are, you will go for it. When you think constantly about the outcome that you don't want, in a situation, your mind is convinced that what you are focused on is your goal. You mind does not understand negatives like don't, so when you think about how much you "don't want to fail," guess what, you end up failing.
You need something that you can go towards, no different than a target in a darts game. Know what you are shooting at, and know how to get there.
Give yourself a direction to head in to set yourself up for success, and not failure.
If it's a real job online you want, decide what will make that job real for you. If you just want to know you can do it to begin with, focus on things that make that a fact to you.
Look through our site for inspiration, get some motivating books, and get an idea of how you can help yourself reach that objective.
Create situations that you know will help you get where you want to go.
If it means no more television, create that situation.
If you really can't bring yourself to spend the necessary time reading motivational books and whatnot, visit our site for reviews and recommendations on videos and software that will make the entire process a lot easier, and more enjoyable. There are countless tools at your disposal that will set you up for success, but you have to be willing to use them first!
If you need any more ideas, check out our site, and be sure to sign up for our mailing list and receive our guide on 5 steps to taking action and being successful! You'll be glad you did. - 15431
All they can think about is them not losing.
And what usually ends up happening, is they end up losing.
Focusing on that which you don't want is an amazing strategy to get exactly what you don't want!
If you are in a game, just trying to "not lose" is like being on the defensive until your opponent wins. Does that sound effective? Instead of going for the victory, you're just trying to keep the other person from getting points, and, once the game is over, you come to realize that you have missed every opportunity that was put in front of you to score, because you were way too focused on not losing.
Why don't you try winning for a change?
I know, what a crazy idea.
If you give yourself a goal to shoot for, chances are, you will go for it. When you think constantly about the outcome that you don't want, in a situation, your mind is convinced that what you are focused on is your goal. You mind does not understand negatives like don't, so when you think about how much you "don't want to fail," guess what, you end up failing.
You need something that you can go towards, no different than a target in a darts game. Know what you are shooting at, and know how to get there.
Give yourself a direction to head in to set yourself up for success, and not failure.
If it's a real job online you want, decide what will make that job real for you. If you just want to know you can do it to begin with, focus on things that make that a fact to you.
Look through our site for inspiration, get some motivating books, and get an idea of how you can help yourself reach that objective.
Create situations that you know will help you get where you want to go.
If it means no more television, create that situation.
If you really can't bring yourself to spend the necessary time reading motivational books and whatnot, visit our site for reviews and recommendations on videos and software that will make the entire process a lot easier, and more enjoyable. There are countless tools at your disposal that will set you up for success, but you have to be willing to use them first!
If you need any more ideas, check out our site, and be sure to sign up for our mailing list and receive our guide on 5 steps to taking action and being successful! You'll be glad you did. - 15431
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