"Never talk to strangers". It is a timeless piece of advice that parents have been telling their children for generations. The implied threat is hardly ever explained, but as adults we know sexual crimes top the list. Although the stranger danger adage has been repeated over and over, it is only partially true. It may shock you to find that 8 out of 10 rape victims know their attacker.
Becoming a victim to someone you know can carry even more anguish than being randomly attacked. The feelings of responsibility or betrayal of trust get layered on top of the utter violation. Even worse, there is often less support offered from peers, who may not come to your defense out of loyalty to the attacker.
Rape at college is often brushed off. It is treated as a mistake, just another drunken party antic, bad communication or maybe even the inevitable conclusion to "wild girls" who can't hold their liquor. I head this and marvel that after all these years so little has changed. These rapes are almost never reported, and this can lead to deeply held emotional scars that can last for years.
So now that this stage has been set and you're getting ready to send your child off to school, what are you going to say and how can you lay out the facts in such a way as to not totally ruin the experience of heading off to school? When it comes right down to it...
Here are six valuable things that every girl should know.
The only sure way to prevent a miscarriage of justice is to prevent the crime. When alcohol and young people mix, situations can easily get out of hand. Your judgement goes downhill and so does your perception and then before you see anything coming- you have a mess on your hands.
If you're out with a guy and the little voice in your head tells you that something isn't right, remember that no means no. Tell the person very clearly to stop and leave immediately. It doesn't matter if you're wrong and you create some hurt feelings. If you've misread the situation nothing will go as wrong as if you've read it right.
It is very easy to be charmed by a perfect guy, especially if you haven't done a lot of dating. But if you start to feel swamped and overwhelmed watch out for the danger signs of a potentially abusive relationship.
It's bound to happen that you'll be out with a one of the girls and she'll have too much to drink. You may not bail out on her when she is vulnerable. Be a true friend. No matter how hard it is for you, leave with her and take her to a safe place.
If you're probably going to be drinking make a like a wildebeest and stay with the herd. There is some safety in numbers.
There are all kinds of people on college campuses. Although the majority may seem trustworthy, realize that these are not the friends that you grew up with. Your trust is to be earned, not given away lightly. Don't let yourself be a victim. - 15431
Becoming a victim to someone you know can carry even more anguish than being randomly attacked. The feelings of responsibility or betrayal of trust get layered on top of the utter violation. Even worse, there is often less support offered from peers, who may not come to your defense out of loyalty to the attacker.
Rape at college is often brushed off. It is treated as a mistake, just another drunken party antic, bad communication or maybe even the inevitable conclusion to "wild girls" who can't hold their liquor. I head this and marvel that after all these years so little has changed. These rapes are almost never reported, and this can lead to deeply held emotional scars that can last for years.
So now that this stage has been set and you're getting ready to send your child off to school, what are you going to say and how can you lay out the facts in such a way as to not totally ruin the experience of heading off to school? When it comes right down to it...
Here are six valuable things that every girl should know.
The only sure way to prevent a miscarriage of justice is to prevent the crime. When alcohol and young people mix, situations can easily get out of hand. Your judgement goes downhill and so does your perception and then before you see anything coming- you have a mess on your hands.
If you're out with a guy and the little voice in your head tells you that something isn't right, remember that no means no. Tell the person very clearly to stop and leave immediately. It doesn't matter if you're wrong and you create some hurt feelings. If you've misread the situation nothing will go as wrong as if you've read it right.
It is very easy to be charmed by a perfect guy, especially if you haven't done a lot of dating. But if you start to feel swamped and overwhelmed watch out for the danger signs of a potentially abusive relationship.
It's bound to happen that you'll be out with a one of the girls and she'll have too much to drink. You may not bail out on her when she is vulnerable. Be a true friend. No matter how hard it is for you, leave with her and take her to a safe place.
If you're probably going to be drinking make a like a wildebeest and stay with the herd. There is some safety in numbers.
There are all kinds of people on college campuses. Although the majority may seem trustworthy, realize that these are not the friends that you grew up with. Your trust is to be earned, not given away lightly. Don't let yourself be a victim. - 15431
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