Breaking up during the holidays is especially hard. There are parties and get-togethers, and everyone will want to know why you're not together anymore. It's even worse when it wasn't your decision, and all you want to do is be back together again.
If you are trying to deal with a breakup right now, keep your chin up. Here are three steps to help you get through the upcoming holidays. Pay close attention, because making the right moves now can go a long way towards getting back together again.
This first step may be hard for you to do, but it's probably the smartest thing you can do right now. You need to tell your ex that they were right... that your relationship had some problems, and that breaking up was probably the best thing to do.
Okay, I know that you don't really feel that way. But this isn't an emotional move - it's a strategic one. It basically takes the power away from them, because this is the last thing they expect for you to do. Suddenly they aren't "in charge" of the situation anymore.
Once you've done that, you need to go out and have some fun. Don't sit at home going round and around trying to figure out what went wrong. Take advantage of this time apart. Go out with old friends. Make some new ones. The holidays will give you a lot of chances to get out and have fun.
Taking some time to just have fun with old friends can be very healing. In a few weeks, you'll probably have a new perspective on your old relationship. You'll be able to decide if you want to try to get back together... or if you're better off moving on.
If you decide that getting back with your ex is what you really want, this next step is very important.
It's time to find out how your ex feels. Are they missing you as much as you are missing them? You need to know, but you don't want to it to seem like you're begging them to take you back. You have to be smarter than that. Right now, you need to take it slow.
Here's what I mean...
When you see your ex, you need to act a little hard-to-get. Be friendly, but cool. If they're missing you and starting to feel they made a mistake, this will make a huge impression on them. They will see that you're doing great on you own, and they'll really start to rethink things. It puts them in the position of wanting to reconcile, instead of you trying to convince them to take you back.
Just three steps: agreeing that the breakup is a good idea, going out and having fun on your own, and then playing it cool when you see your ex, will help you get through the holiday season ahead. You might get back together again, but even if you don't, you'll end up having some fun and making some new friends in the process. And the best thing is, you get to walk away with your dignity intact. - 15431
If you are trying to deal with a breakup right now, keep your chin up. Here are three steps to help you get through the upcoming holidays. Pay close attention, because making the right moves now can go a long way towards getting back together again.
This first step may be hard for you to do, but it's probably the smartest thing you can do right now. You need to tell your ex that they were right... that your relationship had some problems, and that breaking up was probably the best thing to do.
Okay, I know that you don't really feel that way. But this isn't an emotional move - it's a strategic one. It basically takes the power away from them, because this is the last thing they expect for you to do. Suddenly they aren't "in charge" of the situation anymore.
Once you've done that, you need to go out and have some fun. Don't sit at home going round and around trying to figure out what went wrong. Take advantage of this time apart. Go out with old friends. Make some new ones. The holidays will give you a lot of chances to get out and have fun.
Taking some time to just have fun with old friends can be very healing. In a few weeks, you'll probably have a new perspective on your old relationship. You'll be able to decide if you want to try to get back together... or if you're better off moving on.
If you decide that getting back with your ex is what you really want, this next step is very important.
It's time to find out how your ex feels. Are they missing you as much as you are missing them? You need to know, but you don't want to it to seem like you're begging them to take you back. You have to be smarter than that. Right now, you need to take it slow.
Here's what I mean...
When you see your ex, you need to act a little hard-to-get. Be friendly, but cool. If they're missing you and starting to feel they made a mistake, this will make a huge impression on them. They will see that you're doing great on you own, and they'll really start to rethink things. It puts them in the position of wanting to reconcile, instead of you trying to convince them to take you back.
Just three steps: agreeing that the breakup is a good idea, going out and having fun on your own, and then playing it cool when you see your ex, will help you get through the holiday season ahead. You might get back together again, but even if you don't, you'll end up having some fun and making some new friends in the process. And the best thing is, you get to walk away with your dignity intact. - 15431
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