Women are unpredictable beings, and even a thought about first date makes majority of men tremble either from agitation, or from fear of being unfit, or both. What line of behavior one should take? Being like a medieval chevalier, confident and benevolent master of his fiefdom, or like a man appreciating the liberties of modern society, who is treating his lady as an equal? Where is this thin line which divides goodness from awkwardness, attraction from repulsion? Here are seven useful tips, which I would like to share with you:
Tip 1: Be a perfect planner. Think over all elements of your first date: time, place, entertainment program. Better: prepare two options, and, if you would feel any hesitation on the other side regarding your best plan, offer plan B. If you met her online, you already know (from her personal profile, from your email exchange) what turns her on. Still, keep in mind that she has never seen you before, so the choice of the place must be such, that she will feel safe and confident there. Looking for a nice and comforting place for first meeting: what that should be? It is always good to propose first meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small cafe nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is usually quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art. From there you can move to whatever is a next stop in your plan: restaurant, cinema, theater, vinery, or night club, however, keep in mind that sometimes it is better to leave such places for the next date.
Tip 2: Do not be late. Psychologists say that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting: you may not get even that much, if you will get late. If these 15 seconds (or even few minutes) of her time will be filled with waiting, well, you just do not want this to happen. Women hate when someone makes them wait: in this state their mind offers them a million of things which they could do with better outcome than just mere standing and waiting. The rest is just a matter how long she can stand this condition, usually not too long before she will take-off and leave. Then you will arrive and will be waiting for nothing to happen: you have to blame for that yourself!
Tip 3: Your appearance must be perfect. Perhaps you can figure this out without my tips, but, I hope, you will be OK if I will just confirm it: yes, you should look like you just came from a probe for a front cover of Esquire (if they would ever published a man on their front cover). Well, Entertainment Weekly, or whatever, you have got the point. Rest assured that before the meeting with you she spent several hours before the mirror as if she was preparing for such probe, so you better be a good match to her. She will be expecting this from you and this is what will take some fraction of those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned earlier. So you better be perfect in your flawless clothes and shiny shoes, these simple (almost silly) things will help you to win those 15 seconds.
Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.
Tip 5: Be a real gent. Make her feel that traditions of old chivalry are still alive. Open a door before her, pull a chair from under a table for her, drop yourself into a puddle, so she could step on you and not to soil her genuine Prada shoes. Well, perhaps the latter is an extra, but you have got an idea. Even stubborn feminist will appreciate such attention. Oh, well, I almost forgot: always help her to put her coat on (if there will be an occasion for that) this is an extra chance to hug her slightly, which might pave you a way in a right direction.
Tip 6: Compliments and more compliments. Women love them. First sentence after your initial greetings must be: You look great! (Fantastic, gorgeous, terrific ). And keep this tone for the rest of the evening: your effort will be appreciated!
Tip 7: Speak less, listen more. Women usually want to know about you, but even more they would like to tell about themselves. Give her this opportunity: ask questions and listen attentively everything she says. Of course, you have to listen actively, support her with short phrases, like "Is that right?!", "Yeah, I see", "Interesting" and keep nodding. If there will come your turn to talk, it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives and lovers, about issues with your health, about problems at work or on any religious subjects. Your task is to find a topic of common interest (while she is talking) and develop it. Look into her eyes, smile, show her a good sense of humor, and definitely do not try to tell her everything about yourself, leave it to your second, third, n-th date with her, which will surely happen if you will follow these simple rules. - 15431
Tip 1: Be a perfect planner. Think over all elements of your first date: time, place, entertainment program. Better: prepare two options, and, if you would feel any hesitation on the other side regarding your best plan, offer plan B. If you met her online, you already know (from her personal profile, from your email exchange) what turns her on. Still, keep in mind that she has never seen you before, so the choice of the place must be such, that she will feel safe and confident there. Looking for a nice and comforting place for first meeting: what that should be? It is always good to propose first meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small cafe nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is usually quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art. From there you can move to whatever is a next stop in your plan: restaurant, cinema, theater, vinery, or night club, however, keep in mind that sometimes it is better to leave such places for the next date.
Tip 2: Do not be late. Psychologists say that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting: you may not get even that much, if you will get late. If these 15 seconds (or even few minutes) of her time will be filled with waiting, well, you just do not want this to happen. Women hate when someone makes them wait: in this state their mind offers them a million of things which they could do with better outcome than just mere standing and waiting. The rest is just a matter how long she can stand this condition, usually not too long before she will take-off and leave. Then you will arrive and will be waiting for nothing to happen: you have to blame for that yourself!
Tip 3: Your appearance must be perfect. Perhaps you can figure this out without my tips, but, I hope, you will be OK if I will just confirm it: yes, you should look like you just came from a probe for a front cover of Esquire (if they would ever published a man on their front cover). Well, Entertainment Weekly, or whatever, you have got the point. Rest assured that before the meeting with you she spent several hours before the mirror as if she was preparing for such probe, so you better be a good match to her. She will be expecting this from you and this is what will take some fraction of those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned earlier. So you better be perfect in your flawless clothes and shiny shoes, these simple (almost silly) things will help you to win those 15 seconds.
Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.
Tip 5: Be a real gent. Make her feel that traditions of old chivalry are still alive. Open a door before her, pull a chair from under a table for her, drop yourself into a puddle, so she could step on you and not to soil her genuine Prada shoes. Well, perhaps the latter is an extra, but you have got an idea. Even stubborn feminist will appreciate such attention. Oh, well, I almost forgot: always help her to put her coat on (if there will be an occasion for that) this is an extra chance to hug her slightly, which might pave you a way in a right direction.
Tip 6: Compliments and more compliments. Women love them. First sentence after your initial greetings must be: You look great! (Fantastic, gorgeous, terrific ). And keep this tone for the rest of the evening: your effort will be appreciated!
Tip 7: Speak less, listen more. Women usually want to know about you, but even more they would like to tell about themselves. Give her this opportunity: ask questions and listen attentively everything she says. Of course, you have to listen actively, support her with short phrases, like "Is that right?!", "Yeah, I see", "Interesting" and keep nodding. If there will come your turn to talk, it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives and lovers, about issues with your health, about problems at work or on any religious subjects. Your task is to find a topic of common interest (while she is talking) and develop it. Look into her eyes, smile, show her a good sense of humor, and definitely do not try to tell her everything about yourself, leave it to your second, third, n-th date with her, which will surely happen if you will follow these simple rules. - 15431
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