Attract her attention. Yes, there must be something that should make your profile outstanding, comparing to "male, Aquarius, looking for an attractive.." boring stereotypes. It is your, great and unique personality presented here, so you better make it special.
Everything is in the detail Perhaps, this is true, but sometimes it is better if some details are set aside. Your profile must be precise and reasonably short: if she will find it interesting, you will update her on all your characteristic details later. So, your personal description will be better if it is concrete and brief. Again, it is better to emphasize not the size of your shoes and color of your eyes, but the key features of your character, habits and desires. Perhaps, she will find interesting to know what kind of cigarettes you use, when you prefer to smoke and how much coffee you consume while at work, but, better to limit your description to the key features of your personality (clearly, the listed ones are not those features).
Only You! When it comes to description of your match, writing in a third person is a bad idea. I will give you an example. "I am looking for someone special, who appreciates order in her life, but when some disorder happens, she takes it easy with a good sense of humor. If she is caught under warm summer rain, she just laughs and enjoys the opportunity to get a little wet." Or, lets say instead "You are special and I am looking for you! You appreciate order in your life, but when you are caught in a warm summer rain you just laugh and enjoy an opportunity to get little wet. If I have got this right about you, please, let me know, I want to hear from you!" You are writing about a person you have never met, and still she will feel that this is about her. In a first example, even if this is about her and she will read it, she still may not feel that way, because it is written in a third person, about some other girl. As a result you may never hear from her. Considering that you have worked hard on your profile and manage to express an essence of your perfect match, you dont want this to happen.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Mystery. Never forget that you are writing to a woman. Some element of mystery and intrigue will stir certain emotional mechanisms of her soul. Leave a part of your story untold, give her an opportunity to fill the blanks with her own imagination and feelings. Perhaps she will ask you some questions, and most certainly she will find you interesting. Remember: the purpose of your profile is to start a dialogue!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Watch your language. I am not talking about the choice of your words, I am talking about observing the grammar. You can write that you are very successful in your business, that you are dreaming to fill your mansion in Palm Beach Gardens with kids and pets, but you cannot do this alone, etc. Make just two grammar mistakes and your chances to find someone will dwindle substantially. She will not buy it, no matter how "sensear is your writting".
Restrain from any physical boast. It is always better to keep your male stamina restrained in your profile. Unless you are looking into a short, 1-2 night relationship, it is not a good idea to emphasize that you are "passionate lover, who can make it 10 times in a row". Do not make yourself looking silly.
Truth and truth only! You dont want to lie, because lie will be revealed sooner or later. It is just not smart to risk a potentially great relationship with some lie. Be honest in your profile and with your photos, and you will be rewarded.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck. - 15431
Everything is in the detail Perhaps, this is true, but sometimes it is better if some details are set aside. Your profile must be precise and reasonably short: if she will find it interesting, you will update her on all your characteristic details later. So, your personal description will be better if it is concrete and brief. Again, it is better to emphasize not the size of your shoes and color of your eyes, but the key features of your character, habits and desires. Perhaps, she will find interesting to know what kind of cigarettes you use, when you prefer to smoke and how much coffee you consume while at work, but, better to limit your description to the key features of your personality (clearly, the listed ones are not those features).
Only You! When it comes to description of your match, writing in a third person is a bad idea. I will give you an example. "I am looking for someone special, who appreciates order in her life, but when some disorder happens, she takes it easy with a good sense of humor. If she is caught under warm summer rain, she just laughs and enjoys the opportunity to get a little wet." Or, lets say instead "You are special and I am looking for you! You appreciate order in your life, but when you are caught in a warm summer rain you just laugh and enjoy an opportunity to get little wet. If I have got this right about you, please, let me know, I want to hear from you!" You are writing about a person you have never met, and still she will feel that this is about her. In a first example, even if this is about her and she will read it, she still may not feel that way, because it is written in a third person, about some other girl. As a result you may never hear from her. Considering that you have worked hard on your profile and manage to express an essence of your perfect match, you dont want this to happen.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Mystery. Never forget that you are writing to a woman. Some element of mystery and intrigue will stir certain emotional mechanisms of her soul. Leave a part of your story untold, give her an opportunity to fill the blanks with her own imagination and feelings. Perhaps she will ask you some questions, and most certainly she will find you interesting. Remember: the purpose of your profile is to start a dialogue!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Watch your language. I am not talking about the choice of your words, I am talking about observing the grammar. You can write that you are very successful in your business, that you are dreaming to fill your mansion in Palm Beach Gardens with kids and pets, but you cannot do this alone, etc. Make just two grammar mistakes and your chances to find someone will dwindle substantially. She will not buy it, no matter how "sensear is your writting".
Restrain from any physical boast. It is always better to keep your male stamina restrained in your profile. Unless you are looking into a short, 1-2 night relationship, it is not a good idea to emphasize that you are "passionate lover, who can make it 10 times in a row". Do not make yourself looking silly.
Truth and truth only! You dont want to lie, because lie will be revealed sooner or later. It is just not smart to risk a potentially great relationship with some lie. Be honest in your profile and with your photos, and you will be rewarded.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck. - 15431
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