Thursday, December 25, 2008

Win Your Ex back with 3 powerful Steps

By Millard Scott

Trying to win your ex back can sometimes be difficult. There will always be some doubt in your mind about whether or not you are making the right move. This can cause you a lot of stress because if you make the wrong move you risk losing that special love in your life forever.

If you allow your emotions to dictate your moves to win your ex back you will usually take the wrong steps, although those steps may feel right at the time. You will need to do what is counterintuitive, or contrary to what your emotions tell you to do in order to have the best chance to get back your ex.

Emotional responses can cause you to do things that will only make things worse and this is not how to get your ex back into your life. You will need to take steps that will be counterintuitive to what you may feel in your heart. The wrong actions will drive your ex farther away from you.

Here are 3 counterintuitive steps that you can use right now that to help you win your ex back. These actions may not feel right at this time, but remember, these steps have been proven time and time again to be the most effective ones to take.

Step 1 - The Agreement

The very first step you need to take is to agree with your ex and accept the breakup. You need to tell your ex that you have accepted the breakup and agree that it is the best thing to do at this time. This may not be easy for you to do and chances are you will struggle with this, as your emotions will try to dictate to you.

The agreement will allow you and your ex the time and space for reflection about the situation. This can give you both the chance for some mental healing from the ordeal of the break up.

Step 2 - Stop Regular Communications

When you stop frequent communtications this will show your ex that you are serious about agreeing to the break up. If you agree with the break up and still keep commmunicating over and over with your ex, as if you cannot go through the day without them, it will send the wrong message. This will just make you still look desperate and weak to them. Now it is time for your next step.

Step 3 - Plan the Reconnection

Your next step is to plan and event or a place where you can reconnect with your ex. You need to be careful with this step though. If you don't plan it out right it can backfire and sabatoge your efforts. To learn more about this step and to discover all of the vital steps you need to be successful , you will need to read the complete plan to win your ex back. - 15431

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