Presenting yourself in the best possible light can bring out the worst in us - either we try too hard and make ourselves into super human emotionally tough and fabulously gifted demi-gods, or we shoot too low and slide down the slippery road of "if you're really interested you can take the time to get to know me" syndrome.
Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don't often have all the time in the world to catch someone's interest.
Now is the time that preparation is essential.
So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.
1. Get a Great Photo - and Look Happy!
I could count on several hundred fingers the amount of profiles out there with the most suspect photographs.
You have been warned : I advise not taking a photograph of yourself if you are looking like a mess, tired, hung over, or not in a great mood.
I recommend a bright and colorful photograph - ideally focusing on the head and shoulders, with natural lighting or at least a well lit shot. Make yourself stand out with a fabulous smile and some colorful clothes or background.
2. Avoid 'Ad-Speak' Like the Plague
I'm sure you've come across these beauties many times : "good sense of humour", "considerate", "likes walking", "great guy"
Sooo Boring!
The details are what will bring your profile to life.
By giving your reader details about yourself, you allow them to create an image of you in their minds and emotions - therefore making you more memorable and interesting.
3. Give Me - Give Me- Give Me
Don't assume that people will work out your ideal person from your profile details. It is far better to state what you are looking for a person, and if you have some 'do not wants' state them too. You will receive far more suitable replies.
If your imaging a mate like yourself - one in which you're both singing from the same hymm sheet - have the same desires, well mention that in your profile.
Don't risk being too general and grey or you will get far too many unsuitable responses.
4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies
Don't hype up your details or you risk doing an injustice to yourself and disappointing the other party.
Physical appearance is an aspect where you can not get away with 'hype'. Describing your self as "hot", "stunning" may not endear you too your audiance as physical attraction is always a personal and subjective thing. It's far more cool to put your photo up and draw your admirers to you.
Although you may be the 'real deal', you, your mum and your pet poodle 'Foo-Foo' may not be the most suitable references when creating your profile.
Reality check required.
5. Don't Forget The Fundamentals
I'm sure you'll agree - when forging new relationships, some essential fundamentals are required. Don't forget to mention your age, status - single, divorced, education level, and job.
And remember -for safety reasons you do not have to give any specific details to anyone.
6. Adding the Color to Your Life
Don't you just love a person on a mission ? Any mission. With fire, passion and conviction in the mind and hearts.
We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.
Now it's your turn to look at your own life - and find the theme or flavour that's flowing through your stream.
Write down the many things that inspire you, make you happy, and make you laugh. Include your best skills and traits, and what makes you unique.
E.G. Soulful and Sensitive Writer in Seattle, Traveller and 'Mean Piano Player'
7. Knock Yourself Out
Keep it simple, and you can't go wrong.
So keep your smarts about you, but don't forget - life was never meant to be hard. Keep it fun and light, and make it an opportunity to also learn and grow. - 15431
Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don't often have all the time in the world to catch someone's interest.
Now is the time that preparation is essential.
So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.
1. Get a Great Photo - and Look Happy!
I could count on several hundred fingers the amount of profiles out there with the most suspect photographs.
You have been warned : I advise not taking a photograph of yourself if you are looking like a mess, tired, hung over, or not in a great mood.
I recommend a bright and colorful photograph - ideally focusing on the head and shoulders, with natural lighting or at least a well lit shot. Make yourself stand out with a fabulous smile and some colorful clothes or background.
2. Avoid 'Ad-Speak' Like the Plague
I'm sure you've come across these beauties many times : "good sense of humour", "considerate", "likes walking", "great guy"
Sooo Boring!
The details are what will bring your profile to life.
By giving your reader details about yourself, you allow them to create an image of you in their minds and emotions - therefore making you more memorable and interesting.
3. Give Me - Give Me- Give Me
Don't assume that people will work out your ideal person from your profile details. It is far better to state what you are looking for a person, and if you have some 'do not wants' state them too. You will receive far more suitable replies.
If your imaging a mate like yourself - one in which you're both singing from the same hymm sheet - have the same desires, well mention that in your profile.
Don't risk being too general and grey or you will get far too many unsuitable responses.
4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies
Don't hype up your details or you risk doing an injustice to yourself and disappointing the other party.
Physical appearance is an aspect where you can not get away with 'hype'. Describing your self as "hot", "stunning" may not endear you too your audiance as physical attraction is always a personal and subjective thing. It's far more cool to put your photo up and draw your admirers to you.
Although you may be the 'real deal', you, your mum and your pet poodle 'Foo-Foo' may not be the most suitable references when creating your profile.
Reality check required.
5. Don't Forget The Fundamentals
I'm sure you'll agree - when forging new relationships, some essential fundamentals are required. Don't forget to mention your age, status - single, divorced, education level, and job.
And remember -for safety reasons you do not have to give any specific details to anyone.
6. Adding the Color to Your Life
Don't you just love a person on a mission ? Any mission. With fire, passion and conviction in the mind and hearts.
We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.
Now it's your turn to look at your own life - and find the theme or flavour that's flowing through your stream.
Write down the many things that inspire you, make you happy, and make you laugh. Include your best skills and traits, and what makes you unique.
E.G. Soulful and Sensitive Writer in Seattle, Traveller and 'Mean Piano Player'
7. Knock Yourself Out
Keep it simple, and you can't go wrong.
So keep your smarts about you, but don't forget - life was never meant to be hard. Keep it fun and light, and make it an opportunity to also learn and grow. - 15431
About the Author:
Hi I'm Rebecca Adams - and i've been giving relationship tips to singles and couples for 12 years. Whether your just starting a relationship, walking the dating minefield, or happily or unhappily married - there's something for you! Visit us and pick up your free Gift today : The 8 Keys to Having a Great Relationship Experience -- And Why it All Starts With YOU!
