Monday, January 26, 2009

Mistakes With Your Ex You Simply Must Not Make!

By Zena P Truscott

Mistakes with your ex that you can make after a break up can make it very difficult to regain lost ground and start to mend the relationship again. If you want to give yourself the best chance of making up you must use strong discipline indeed to not make the "Fatal 5" major mistakes that most people make with their ex!

The Mistakes you must not make with your ex are:

*Major Mistake with your Ex : - Apologising over and over again for everything that has ever happened between y has to stop. Continually apologising is a major mistake with your ex because it makes the apology look insincere. The fact is you have broken up over something and the situation is serious. Stop apologising for anything and everything. It just will not mean anything right now. If you have done something you need to apologise for, there will be a time and a place later

* Fatal Mistake With Your Ex: - Trying to Change yourself into someone else is something you must not attempt. You are the person you are, and ultimately the person your ex wanted to be with in the beginning. Trying to change is a promise you probably just can't keep! Don't do it!

*Fatal Mistake With Your Ex: - Telling your ex that you are their one true love and that you have to be together is a mistake! Your ex doesn't think so at the moment and you need to give them space. Ultimately only they can decide who their one true love is...you will just look weak trying to make a convincing argument that it is you.

* Killer Mistake With Your Ex:- One of the most dangerous tactics you can employ is to try and convince them it wasn't your fault! With the raw emotions that accompany a break up still being fresh, you must avoid saying you are not at fault at all cost. Don't place blame on anyone's shoulders! Common sense says you have both done or said something during the break up to get to where you are.

*Major Mistake with your Ex : - Are you begging your ex to take you back? If so you must stop, and stop right now! Relationships based on begging to be given another chance or to be taken back work on guilt and, is emotional blackmail. This is a major mistake with your ex because it makes you look needy and extremely clingy. They will feel suffocated by it all.

Now that you have read the list of "Fatal" mistakes you can make after a break up, how many are you making? Behavioural statistics shown that using tactics such as the five listed here will not successfully heal a relationship. In fact, they usually drive an ex further away.

The five Fatal mistakes above only serve to make a relationship breakdown more certain. You need to take positive steps towards rebuilding your relationship rather than use negative tactics such as those that are listed here.

When people have suffered through a break up but want to try to make up, the trusted guide that many people turn to is The Magic Of Making Up System. The program takes a step by step approach to give the best chance of saving a relationship. In fact, all the advice in this article has come from this program.

The Magic of Making Up has helped over 6000 people mend their broken relationships and get back together. If you would like to learn more about the program please follow the links below to the Magic of Making Up web pages that deal with mending broken relationships. These pages also include the opportunity to listen to an inspiring video presentation from the author of The Magic of Making Up.( His name is T.W. Jackson and he has a wealth of experience in helping people just like you mend relationships after a break up.) - 15431

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