Compared to guys, girls are usualy very "verbal". After a breakup, they often have the urge to share their feelings with their ex boyfriend, write him a long letter to tell him how she feels. But is that smart? Should you write a letter to your ex boyfriend?
Are letters any good if you try getting a guy back? Well, I went through two major breakups in my life, one after a year and a half, and one after five years. After both, I found great relieve in writing down my feelings. But after both, sending my letters containing those feelings to my ex boyfriend, did more bad than good.
There are breakups happening every single day, so there is some common behaviour we can find with most girls and guys after a breakup. One example is: Most guys don't respond too well to long, emotional letters from an ex girlfriend.
What a lot of women want, is "closure" after a relationship ends. That's why they often have an urge to send a letter to their ex boyfriend to explain their feelings. I don't recommend this!
I would suggest doing the following: Write your feelings down, but don't send them. Just do it to get a clear perspective on the situation.
If you really have to share your feelings, and your girlfriends are not enough, why don't you just post your feelings on a blog or some forum? That way, you will get a lot of advice on how to handle your specific situation, and it will be a lot smarter then sending a letter to your ex boyfriend.
If you wanted to write your ex boyfriend a letter, and now you don't know what to do.. I would recommend you have a look at this article that is all about getting a guy back.
To wrap it up, I just have this general advice: After a breakup, just try to stay lively and active, go do something with friends, don't isolate yourself. - 15431
Are letters any good if you try getting a guy back? Well, I went through two major breakups in my life, one after a year and a half, and one after five years. After both, I found great relieve in writing down my feelings. But after both, sending my letters containing those feelings to my ex boyfriend, did more bad than good.
There are breakups happening every single day, so there is some common behaviour we can find with most girls and guys after a breakup. One example is: Most guys don't respond too well to long, emotional letters from an ex girlfriend.
What a lot of women want, is "closure" after a relationship ends. That's why they often have an urge to send a letter to their ex boyfriend to explain their feelings. I don't recommend this!
I would suggest doing the following: Write your feelings down, but don't send them. Just do it to get a clear perspective on the situation.
If you really have to share your feelings, and your girlfriends are not enough, why don't you just post your feelings on a blog or some forum? That way, you will get a lot of advice on how to handle your specific situation, and it will be a lot smarter then sending a letter to your ex boyfriend.
If you wanted to write your ex boyfriend a letter, and now you don't know what to do.. I would recommend you have a look at this article that is all about getting a guy back.
To wrap it up, I just have this general advice: After a breakup, just try to stay lively and active, go do something with friends, don't isolate yourself. - 15431
About the Author:
Mariah Tames is a psychology master, who specialized in relational problems. Read more of her ideas on getting a guy back on her site, and feel free to share your opinion if you want!
